I’ve read a lot of self-development books in the past. I was searching the secret to a successful life all these year. Until I found “The secret”. And it hit me. One day as I was reading a self-development book, I stumbled upon Aristotle’s philosophical ideas. One idea sparked my interest more than anything else that day:
We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.
The reality is that we are the sum of our habits. All the habits we grew inside, and which we repeat every day, dictate what we are. That’s interesting. And if you think about it, it is true.
That same day, I’ve heard another interesting concept by a well-known self-development master, Earl Nightingale. He spoke about “The strangest secret”. The strangest secret to what?
I was very curious about what he was referring to. I was curious why he was calling it “The strangest secret”. Was there a secret to something I should know?
After reading that book, I found out that “The strangest secret” is not a secret at all. While it is called like that, it was promulgated by many earlier wise men. It also appears in the Bible. So why is it called “The strangest secret?”
The reason is simple. There are very few people on this planet that truly understand it. Of course, many other people read it but just a few were capable of understanding it. That’s why it is strange. That’s why it virtually still remains a secret to these days for so many people. I remember a quote from Marcus Aurelius:
A man’s life is what his thoughts make of it.
Is it clear enough now?
A person who is thinking about losing weight and works toward that goal will sooner or later reach it. Why?
Because he is thinking about it. The same is true if that same person doesn’t have a goal. Who doesn’t know where he’s going. That same person might have thoughts of anxiety, confusion, fear, and worry. All these negative thoughts will create a life of fear, worry, and frustration. And if he thinks about nothing… he will become nothing. You are getting closer to “The Strangest Secret”.
If you wish to lose weight or gain more muscle mass, and if you wish these things exclusively, and not wish at the same time countless other incompatible things as strongly as these ones, they will become real. They will become real because you will connect them to your current purpose in life. By following what you think about, you will reach that goal no matter what.
Conversely, if you think negatively about reaching a goal, you will get negative results. For example, if you say things like “I can’t do it” or “I failed”, you will be doomed to a failure objective. If you think in positive terms, you will achieve positive results.
Why was I talking about habits before?
Why did I give you a book about habits to fat loss and muscle gaining success?
The main reason I did this was to show you that it is possible. It is possible to change your current habits or to create new habits. It is possible if you think and act upon your thoughts. I don’t believe in circumstances. The people that succeed every time, are people that get up and look for the circumstances they want. And if they can’t find them, they make them.
People that succeed every time, are people that get conscious about their bad habits, and try to change them. Every bad habit can be changed. You can also create good habits any time you want to. It is just a matter of thinking about it.
Managing Good Habits
What is the first thing you do in the morning after you wake up?
- You eat?
- You go outside?
- Do you clean your clothes?
No. You most likely brush your teeth. And this is a habit. A habit that most people have included in their daily routine. Just imagine how weird you would feel if you would go outside, and talk to other people while you forgot to brush your teeth. It wouldn’t feel too comfortable, isn’t it?
I know it happened to me one time, when I was in college. I was late for a management course so after I woke up, I rushed into the bathroom, washed my face, cleaned my hair, got some clothes on, and rushed to the class. The ugly part that day was when the teacher made us play some roles which involved creating groups of colleagues. When we started talking about what each of us had to do in that group, I felt ashamed to speak directly to my colleagues. So I kept my head down while speaking and listening. It was strange I know. I forgot to start the habit of brushing my teeth in the morning.
It is a good habit. This is what I want you to do with this lesson. Create good habits just like this one. Create them in such a way that they become automatic.
Make training a habit. Make it FEEL similar to brushing your teeth. Make it in such a way that you would feel weird if you’d skip a planned training day.
Getting Away From Bad Habits
If you think about the good habits in your life, you can probably come with a comprehensive list. Let’s not do that for the moment.
What I want you to do now, is to try and understand bad habits. An example of a bad habit that influences the way you look, is skipping breakfast, eating fast food at least one time a day because you don’t want to cook at home or you just like the taste of fast-food, drinking soda every time you watch a movie.
These are all example of bad habits because they influence the body composition and health, in a negative way. Hence their association with a bad habit. But here comes the interesting part:
You are not a slave to those habits. You can influence them. You can change them for the better. Do you think I looked like this before I started working out and eating the right way?
No. My life was a mess. Excerpt from my book The No Bs Flexible Formula To Six Pack Abs:
“What is my story?
I was just a skinny fat person, reaching an overweight status. Finally, after many years of reading and testing diets/methods, I discovered an easy and flexible way to diet down to “shredded” levels without losing my hard gained muscle mass.
I remember my starting eating habits: before getting interested in learning more, I was just like the average Joe. I was eating everything in sight.”
I didn’t wanted to bore you with too many details. But the reality is that I had bad eating habits. My preferred food choices were fried potatoes with fried eggs, white bread with peanut butter and jam, sandwiches with salami, cheese, butter. You can call them caloric bombs.
These were all bad habits. But I did one thing right. I started training. I started going to a gym even if I didn’t knew anything about training. I was learning on the go. I started changing my food choices. I started including veggies, and legumes in my diet. These are all good habits. Even if you don’t know the exact vitamin and mineral content of these foods, or their health properties, you know they are good for you. They are a change from a bad habit to a good one.
You are the sum of your habits. Good or bad.
Even if you didn’t learned anything new until now, absorbing Earl Nightingale’s life philosophy would eventually lead to your body transformation.
What You Need To Know About Habits
The summary of everything I’ll tell you about habits is that before you try to break bad habits, and form good ones, nothing will change for you. You are the only one responsible for your fate. They won’t change themselves. Until you put your mind into changing them, they will still stay the same.
A Step By Step Formula
- Get aware of your habits. This is the first step. Get conscious about your good habits. Nourish them. Do them daily. Don’t forget to also get conscious about your bad habits (you don’t train enough, bad food choices)
- Create a growth mindset. This is the second step. A growth mindset means that when you believe and understand that you are capable of changing your habits, thoughts, circumstances, then you have a chance to make progress towards the body you desire. Until then, you won’t be able to do anything. It all starts with you. You must believe you can do it. Everything has a price. If you don’t believe you can do it, if you don’t put work into going towards it, you won’t get the results you want. Don’t search for a shortcut, but take easy steps towards your goal.
- Destroy bad habits, create good habits. If you want to bring massive change in your life, you must change the bad habits into good ones. For example, if you wake up in the morning and you eat a chocolate and drink some soda, just try to change it for the better. Wake up and maybe eat a salad. You don’t have the time to do it? Just wake up earlier with 15 minutes. You can’t do that? Just prepare your meal the night before. I hope you see what I just did here. You can always find a solution to any problem you might have. You just have to have the willpower to do it. If you want the change, then put work into going towards that change.
- Don’t give up. If your progress is not fast enough, if the results you are getting are not satisfying enough, if you’ve heard someone talking about “the best training program or diet”, stop right there. Don’t think about them. Stop doing that. Stop searching for the next shiny thing. Consistency is the mother of all progress. Just learn from my mistakes:
I failed a lot in my life. I learned from my mistakes. I want you to learn from them too. This is why I am here. I want to help you succeed in reaching the body you desire.
Here’s how I fell into the trap of the NSDT. Excerpt from my book The No Bs Flexible Formula To Six Pack Abs:
“I remember how I was when I first started…
Consistently seeking knowledge. Constantly wanting to know more about this sport. Always wanting to progress further so my body could attain the ultimate state. But no matter how much I’ve tried to know everything, something new emerged on the surface, leaving my past knowledge in dust…
Talking strictly about dieting, I can’t even remember how many diets I’ve tried. I guess a big chunk from the available pile of diets that follow us everywhere, being promoted in magazines, advertisements, internet and health “guru’s”.
I’ve read almost all I could put my hand on, regarding nutrition and training.
I kept buying different “muscle gaining” courses and books, trying out different supplements…
I learnt different dieting tricks. At that time, I thought they were the next-best thing. I thought I had discovered the “holy grail”. I learnt how to count calories, what foods were good, what foods were bad, what training programs were flawless.
Basically, everything I learnt at that time, was floating in my head without separating the nonsense from the genuine information. All I knew at that time was a pile of information from different sources.
I didn’t know what was good and what was bad (recognize the T.M.I)
After reading this book, I promise you will know everything about dieting and training for fat loss while maintaining muscle mass (and in some cases even gaining).
The only thing remaining after that is: TAKE ACTION!”
These are just some excerpts from my book. I was doing the same mistakes most people are doing when they want to lose fat or gain more muscle mass. This is why I can help you. I already have the background. I already have a past in which I failed a lot. I don’t want you to waste too much time focusing on what doesn’t matter. Just focus on what’s important now.
Focus on creating good habits, and destroy the bad ones
Let’s start creating a good habit right now. Let’s start a morning walk. Just a 20 minutes morning walk. What if you got up 20 minutes earlier than normal, brush your teeth fast, and just went out for a 15 minutes walk before you begin your day?
Why is this a good habit?
If it were to calculate a weekly additional activity just from that morning walk, you’ll get 105 minutes. That’s 1 hour and 45 minutes a week. That’s 7 hours of additional activity each month. That’s 84 hours of additional activity each year. What’s important about this?
Why do I make such a big deal in creating good habits just like this one?
Think about it for a moment. If you would stay the same diet and training wise for one year but add just those 15 minutes of walk every day, in one year, you will be lighter with a few pounds. Voila. Instant, care-free weight loss. I know it is not much but still. Effortless weight loss. Who can offer you that?
Can you see the power of just one good habit?
Imagine what you can do if you create habits like these ones:
- Waking up in the morning and replacing bad food choices in the morning with good ones.
- What about walking 20 minutes every day instead of 15?
- What about joining a gym and training 2-3 times/week just like I normally do and explain in my book?
- What about doing 10 minutes of cardio 2-3 times/week?
- What about *insert any good habit here.
See where it goes?
All these little positive changes, when added together, they form a bigger picture. They have a bigger impact on your body in the long term. You don’t have to exaggerate with countless hours on a cardio machine, or to starve yourself every day. Just start creating these small positive habits, and you’ll see that in the long term, they will impact the quality of your life for the better without draining your nerves.
You Have A Choice
Doing too many changes at once is a recipe to fail. It is just like dieting and training. How does it feel to completely change your eating habits?
How does it feel to change the way you were accustomed to train?
It might feel too stressful for you. I don’t know you personally but taking into account the human nature, and my practical experience with clients all over the world, I recommend you the following:
Start just with one change
The reason I say this is because I want you to succeed like never before. Remember the old saying “don’t bite off more than you can chew”?
The explanation is simple. I don’t want you to start off with something too hard. Start small. Make the change so easy that you can’t help but get it done consistently. Ask yourself the following: “If you would change one thing, one habit, or one circumstance that will help you go towards your dream body, what would it be?”
Those 15 minutes of morning walk?
Eating veggies more often and cutting down on processed foods?
Write it down in the comment section below. I am really interested to hear your answer. I recommend you to do this. Writing it down here is like making a personal note. Not only that, but all the people that take this course can enter in a discussion with you. I know I’ll do that after you write down the change you want to make or the habit you want to create.
Do it now! Don’t leave it for the next minute or day. Make a personal PROMISE to yourself to DO IT! Take action right now